Having been a shy, timid person my boundaries shifted at different stages. Introduction to school was the first shock to my system. Competition didn’t come easily, so I’d sit and watch others compete. Boarding school was the next shattering experience. Here again, I didn’t feel the need to push myself forward. My dream remained to leave school, with all of its rules and regulations to conform, behind.
My insular existence was traumatized after marriage, when I arrived in non-English speaking countries, and had to learn other languages. Standing on my own feet as a single mother I realized that I didn’t need someone there to protect or look after me. Conversation could be a frightening experience when placed in unfamiliar situations.
Interviews, studying, and then teaching, all broke down barriers I had built up. Public speaking became something I enjoyed after experiencing trepidation at the thought. So often the thought of things is worse than actually doing it. Now writing holds challenges that I didn’t know existed before. At least this can happen in the privacy of the home. I am once again in a place where I can observe people and enjoy the wonders of nature. Yes, I am satisfied with the outcome.
When was the last time you took a risk (big or small), and pushed your own boundaries—socially, professionally, or otherwise? Were you satisfied with the outcome? Ben Huberman
http://dailypost.wordpress.com/dp_prompt/envelope-pushers/
Pushing the boundaries of our comfort zones, is something, I feel, that we learn to do as we age, in order to grow. Great post, Barb, and heartfelt. It is courageous to share one’s personal fears.
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Thanks Amanda, change is something we all face, no matter what age we are. It’s how we deal with it that matters. ❤
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So true
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I seem to be out of my comfort zone on a regular basis at the moment trying to sell my book/give talks etc. I still find it alarming, but it is amazing how generous people are when you ask.
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All good wishes Hilary at this exciting time! ❤
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Wow, you have had to have a lot of courage. Xo
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I guess we all do! ❤
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I like the post a lot. I’ve had to push boundaries as well in my younger years in order to work in my profession. I’m not comfortable in new places but it’s a necessity of life.
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I hope you find a safe and comfortable place to call your own. 🙂
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🙂 Great post!
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Oh, I’ve felt boundaries and fears and self-limitations so often it’s a wonder I’ve come as far as I have. I try to remember the Eleanor Roosevelt philosophy…loosely paraphrased…you must do the thing you’re most afraid of….(I’m sure she didn’t dangle a participle). This is a touching post, Barbara, showing that as long as we keep on keeping on, we almost can’t help but to evolve.
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Barbara, it sounds as if you have fronted up to those ‘things your’e most afraid of’ too, and continue to. All good wishes! xx
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I don’t think I’ve ever had or known any boundaries! Maybe as a result of moving around so much as a child…? Maybe as a result of all of those experiences and situations? And it’s all good – nothing is ever impossible or problematic in my world!!
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Wow Elaine, that’s awesome that you have had such a smooth ride! Hope it always continues. 🐰
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Aha, I never said it was smooth, I’ve just never perceived or felt any boundaries xx
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That’s so good! No wonder you have no inhibitions with your cooking! xx
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😀 Thank you Margaret Rose, bowing graciously! ❤
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great presentation and topic!
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Thank you Mihrank, good to hear from you! 🙂
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Good stuff, Ba ! – and so you should be. 🙂
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