Third time lucky:

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Although my locks were never golden, I was young and naïve. My three choices were not simultaneous, but consecutive, these being my three husbands.

My first was chosen when I was at art school when I was a teenager. Umberto was my lettering teacher, seven years my senior. He made me feel special and I enjoyed absorbing his culture. He whisked me away to Italy to be his alone. As soon as I made friends we’d move. Two beautiful daughters didn’t keep him home. When he chose to move out I decided it was time to come back to Australia.

After five years of living in Tasmania with family support, I felt I needed to spread my wings. I was looking for someone to share my crazy ideas. Plus I wanted to study so that I could get a better job. I left the safety of the known. In walks temptation in the shape of Ian. Believing we shared spiritual links, totally falling in love, with veils over my eyes, we were married three months later. This was a calmer relationship than the last. Our son was born in that first year. It wasn’t until my daughters found the situation intolerable many years later that I refused to follow him with his next whim to move. I had the security of a permanent job and the children were content at school.

At this stage I believed my married days were over. Yes, I had company, but nothing permanent. Eight years later, my childhood sweetheart wrote to me. We were both in the same situation. Christopher’s wife had left him to become a lesbian. We’d been on our own for about the same length of time. The long and short of it: we linked up and married as the children were all leaving to live their adult lives. A better decision was never made. Thrice spliced may have shocked many. My father was gone, but our remaining parents were delighted. Dad, I’m sure would have been thrilled too. This allowed my mother and Chris’s father to die happily the following year. So finally the porridge bowl was just right, and we all lived happily ever after.

 Daily Prompt: Hello Goldilocks! By Michelle W.

 Write about a time you had a Goldilocks experience, exploring different choices and finally arriving at ‘just right.’

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/dp_prompt/daily-prompt-4/

36 thoughts on “Third time lucky:”

  1. preciouspen1955

    So happy for you that you found your soul mate, your anam cara , was just trying to catch up with your posts and found this one , you have such wonderful courage , an inspiration to your children and readers happy days friend , love your photos these last few posts and wow do you make a fab cake , I love fruit cake; will post a pic when I have one made. You have given me a great idea , its my birthday in June and I am going to make my own cake and give it lots of attention ha ha , I am so selfish, I will tell the children, as I know they will have one ordered it will give them one less thing to worry about , we have a wedding coming up in August so lots of family get together s in the next few months hence my pre occupation with the jungle that will hopefully look like a garden ha ha . Not writing much myself these days but love to relax and read a few posts now and again , enjoyed my visit kind regards Kathy.

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    1. bkpyett Post author

      Thanks Kathy, I wish you well with the garden preparations for the wedding! I shall post the fruit cake recipe in case you are interested…soon! ❤ Always good to hear from you!

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      1. preciouspen1955

        thankyou that would be great , told my daughter today , we cleared so many brambles today John and myself, it was windy but so happy to have that done probably one more day will clear most of the really tough areas and then a lot will be covered with black plastic , there is nearly an acre in all , one particular area today was really annoying as we cleared it more and more the need for a fence became apparent so I am now using my thinking cap to come up with a fence in one area, and surprise found about 5 trees hidden in the brambles but unfortunately the strimmer took some bark off the trunks , they are common enough little bushes and trees in this area so perhaps they will be ok if not in the autumn I will coppice them , and have some trees arriving this week 2 hazel , 2 oak , a hawthorn and the poplar , really excited about these tow , I will prob decide where they go , this will be good as if we plant too many together it would not be done with as much care so looking forward to posting soon when I have some photos that will show how it is all shaping up. My dad is planting vegetables now also it is so good to see him enjoying his garden and it gives us some common ground to talk about when he visits . Hope all is well with you and that your weather is good not sure about the differences in our climates exactly but from those wonderful photos you must enjoy lots of sunshine the colours in your flowers and tree photos are delicious , love colour in the garden and must remember to plant my nasturtiums up tow, one year I had some lovely sweet pea climbing everywhere in the summer and that was nice ,must try and be patient ha ha , oh I do wish I had a magic wand. I better finish this is turning into a post and I have taken a vacation from posting ha ha. Happy days to you and your loved ones from Kathy.

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  2. Master of Something Yet

    It’s interesting that you went full circle to find the right one. But perhaps he wouldn’t have been the right one at that time and you both had to change and have those experiences to be right together at the right time. Love is a mystery. Great story, Barbara. 🙂

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  3. Aunt Beulah

    I got it right the second time around. I can remember believing, when young, that you grew up, got married, had children, and lived happily ever after. Now I know that change is a constant and the quality of our life depends on how well we manage it. A great post, Barbara.

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  5. Martha Kennedy

    I love your happy ending. I sometimes wonder if there is a childhood sweetheart out there somewhere, but I don’t think so. And if he came around? I don’t know what I’d do — I hope I’d be cool and happy about it, but I think I might just be frightened. 🙂 ❤

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    1. bkpyett Post author

      It happened when I stopped looking! Write a list of all you’d want in a partner Sista, and put it away, allowing your brain to know you are looked after and give thanks. Never too late!! 🙂

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  7. Maggie Wilson

    As you know, Barbara, I am in my third marriage, too. I still experience a hint of shame around the fact that I am a divorcée – the lingering sentiment learned from my childhood. But I am grateful that I found the courage to end things when they should have ended. It is a courageous thing to do, especially with children in tow. I’m so glad you and Christopher found one another, again.

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  9. auntyuta

    Well, I am still married to the first one. Not that we did not have a few problems on the way. I think with old age one mellows a bit. It seems somehow easier to accept the other person warts and all without wanting to change anything! 🙂

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  10. Jan Bettridge

    Well…I guess I had my “Godilocks experience” with my second marriage to Tony…all of 110 days! The first one which was an utter disaster lasted 32 years!! Sadly my second marriage of just 110 days ended when Tony passed away…but beautiful memories of the fifteen years before, and the 110 days will remain with me always. We never wanted to get married…but when he became so ill it became really important to him…better late than never I guess!

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    1. bkpyett Post author

      I’m glad you have those 15 years and 110 days to remember Jan. What a sad way for Tony to leave, but I hope the best days will outshine the sad ones. I’m glad you are settled in your new home. ❤

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  12. debhuntwasinbrokenhill

    I used to feel so jealous of people who were married and someone who got married more than once was just plain greedy in my view. Give me a go, I wanted to shout. Now I can see what heartache must lie behind more than one marriage and I’m so glad you finally found the bowl that was just right for you!

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  15. gerard oosterman

    I can’t say I have experienced moments of multiple Goldilocks, even if consecutive. We were both in tune and made each other laugh right from the beginning. Not that tears were lacknig either. Rivers of them.
    I am in awe of you having sailed through all those years with three husbands and with so many children as well. A triumph of overcoming adversity. Cupid has many ways in the art of Archery. I am amazed a wife decided to become a lesbian. How did she do that; follow a course or sheer practise? There is a lot still to be discovered.
    It never ends.

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    1. bkpyett Post author

      I can hardly believe it myself! Not sure about the lesbian issue, but she waited for her younger son to do his year 12 exams, and then made the announcement at breakfast time. Big shock to all. It’s good that we never stop learning!! You were lucky to find the right one first time round.

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