Does it ever make sense to judge a book by its cover—literally or metaphorically?
Tell us about a time you did, and whether that was a good decision or not. Ben Huberman
Obviously this is a broader question than choosing a book, though the cover can be quite influential, whether or not to pick it up.
The same goes for people. From my (limited?) experience, I have found that first impressions may not be totally reliable. Love at first sight has led me into, let us say, if not disasters, unfortunate circumstances.
Give me reliability, stability, and trust any day. These qualities may not have the bells and whistles attached that the luminescence of rockets and flowerpots has; extinguishing quickly, just as that love at first sight explosion does.
Would I be without these experiences? Mistakes with their excitement bring about a broader experience of life and ultimately weave a richer tapestry. Is there a right or wrong? No. Each decision widens ones perspective and if luck prevails one ends up in a better situation where one can reminisce and enjoy the certainty of being loved without remaining on tender- hooks.