Binding: that is the question?

Binding Judgment:
Does it ever make sense to judge a book by its cover—literally or metaphorically?
Tell us about a time you did, and whether that was a good decision or not. Ben Huberman

Obviously this is a broader question than choosing a book, though the cover can be quite influential, whether or not to pick it up.

The same goes for people. From my (limited?) experience, I have found that first impressions may not be totally reliable. Love at first sight has led me into, let us say, if not disasters, unfortunate circumstances.

Give me reliability, stability, and trust any day. These qualities may not have the bells and whistles attached that the luminescence of rockets and flowerpots has; extinguishing quickly, just as that love at first sight explosion does.

Would I be without these experiences? Mistakes with their excitement bring about a broader experience of life and ultimately weave a richer tapestry. Is there a right or wrong? No. Each decision widens ones perspective and if luck prevails one ends up in a better situation where one can reminisce and enjoy the certainty of being loved without remaining on tender- hooks.
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16 thoughts on “Binding: that is the question?

  1. bkpyett Post author

    Dixie, we are showing our age, but it is so comfortable now not to have to think about, or worry about, how someone is going to react or perform. Yes, laughter and fun are very much part of our life together too!

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  2. Dixie Minor

    I think sometimes it takes maturity to recognize these things. . .and I love the idea that something can mend to be even stronger and more beautiful at the broken places. I do feel very lucky that Ken, my husband (who, believe it or not, I sometimes refer to in my blogs by his nickname, “Beazer,”) is so dependable and stable, (as well as kind and fun!) I used to be drawn to all that drama. But not anymore. It is exhausting!

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  3. simon682

    I’m with you on reliability, stability and trust and not always trusting first impressions. Having said that I’m approaching forty years of a relationship I made up my mind about in one fortieth of a second. I was in love before I’d even re-captured my breath. I’m still in love.

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    1. bkpyett Post author

      Simon, that is wonderful, you are one of the lucky ones! Christopher knew me from when my mother was pregnant with me, though we didn’t marry first off, we’ve always been friends.

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    1. bkpyett Post author

      True M-R but your life is not over! Pick up the pieces and write those cherished stories!
      We are all waiting to read them!! 🙂 ❤

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  4. Elaine @ foodbod

    Oh yes, I completely agree! We are the sum of all of our experiences, good and bad. And it’s always what’s between the covers that matters, but sometimes, first impressions just put you off wanting to find out!!

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